Dreaming Big Part 3 – Get Fearless

Dreaming Big Part 3 - Get Fearlesss || CohesiveFitness.comI hope you have been enjoying reading this Dreaming Big {Mini Series}. In part 1, we talked through how to set your intentions, and part 2 was all about creating a roadmap for your adventures. In this third and final segment, we are talking about how to get fearless. Letting go of fear and allowing yourself to become vulnerable to the process. Pursuing your wildest dreams is an intimidating process for the majority of us especially if your dreams take you away from the established norm.

My dreams are to work for myself and create a flexible life that allows me to be as creative as I wish. Working in corporate was a little stifling because I felt like I had to fit within a certain mold. I had a creative roll with the company but there were always so many constraints. Now, creating this blog and teaching Pilates allows me to stretch my creativity beyond what I ever thought I was capable. I am having a blast creating for you.

So in todays post, we are talking about how to get fearless when it comes to following your own dreams. This can mean so many things to so many people, so I hope my tips will help you in your journeys. If you find these posts helpful, please comment below and share your experiences with following your dreams!

//What does dreaming big mean to you?

To start down this path, you have to clearly understand what dreaming big means to you. What is it specifically that you desire in your life? Hopefully you gained some clarity in the first two parts of this series. If you haven’t read them, start here first.

My definition of dreaming big is that it is a state of being. It’s never settling and always challenging yourself to become better, happier and more fulfilled. Think about your definition of it, and write it down somewhere prominent. Keep revisiting your definition as it may change and evolve as your life changes.

//Say farewell to shame

If you are unfamiliar with the works of Brené Brown, I suggest you watch her ted talks on the Power of Vulnerability and Shame. I have learned some incredible things through studying her work.

Lets talk a little about shame here. One of my favorite quotes from Brené Brown is:

“Perfectionism is a self destructive and addictive belief system that fuels this primary thought: If I look perfect, and do everything perfectly, I can avoid or minimize the painful feelings of shame, judgment, and blame.” ― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are

Shame is so engrained in our culture, that it’s sometimes even difficult to pinpoint. No one talks about shame and because of this, shame has a place to grow and perpetuate. You can’t become fearless if you live in shame. So to this I say, find an outlet to share your dreams and aspirations, even if they aren’t aligned with the path you think you should be on. Whether it’s a supportive family member, friend or even a therapist. I am not ashamed to say that I go to therapy every few weeks, and through this I have had a lot of self discovery. I always thought I needed to make money to be happy, but after working my butt off with decent pay but no raise for a number of years, I was so unhappy that it wasn’t worth it for me.

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dreaming big part 3 get fearless//Don’t apologize for who you are

This kind of goes with letting go of shame, but be proud to be you! There is no one else in this world like you. You are beautiful, courageous, driven, intelligent and uniquely YOU. You are worth celebrating.

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If you have a crazy idea that you think could help someone, don’t wait for someone else to give you approval. Go out and take the bull by the horns, because honestly, no one will be a better advocate for you than yourself.

//Get fearless and take risks

Once you create your roadmap for success, take the risk. I believe I waited too long to leave my corporate job and I wish I had taken the leap sooner, but I just kept letting my fear talk me out of it. Once I finally made the transition, I was so glad I did.

Take it from me, time goes by way too fast. Next thing you know, you will be 5 years down the road and still unhappy if you don’t take the risk now. Things always come when you need them, especially if you set your intentions and keep them in focus. I am not making a lot of money currently, but I find that money turns up when I need it to pay a bill or to get me by. As long as I have my basic needs met, I wouldn’t trade my happiness for anything.

I mention money because it’s typically the thing that holds us all back from being completely fearless with a dream project or adventure. As an aside, a study from Princeton found that money does buy happiness, but only up to $75k. I thought that was really interesting. $75k will get you a good life and your basic necessities, but you aren’t a millionaire or anything. Just keep that in mind when you are weighing the risks of making your dreams a reality.

//Conclusion

This wraps up the three part Dreaming Big {Mini Series}. I hope to have given you some inspiration, courage, or even a bit of a wake up call. I am still constantly changing and growing, but I have learned so much about myself in the past year!

If you have a story of how you became fearless and followed your dreams, please share with me in the comments below! I love to find inspiration from others!

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Stephanie Benton is a STOTT PILATES Certified instructor and recently became a mom! She holds a BA in Dance from California State University Long Beach, and has a passion for helping new moms reconnect with their physical and emotional selves after starting a family. Cohesive Fitness is a place to learn to simplify your life, health and family priorities.
  • Love this, lady! Fear can definitely hold you back from dreaming; I know it’s something that still sneaks up on me during the day when I realize that I’m not working and trying to get my blog to support me financially! But it’s a real dream and I’ll never know what will happen if I don’t go for it!!

  • So, so true! This reminds me of that quote on people most often regret the things they didn’t do, vs. the things they did take a chance on. (I’m a big believer in that!)

    My story of how I became fearless and followed my dreams is how I’m in medical school today! :] I was nowhere close to acing all my classes in undergrad, so I never thought I’d make it in, but I figured I’d never know if I didn’t try, so I went for it, and now I’m just starting up my very last year! <3

  • Exactly Chelsie! Keep dreaming girl, big things are coming for you! <3

    -Steph

  • Farrah,

    I read your post today on the changes that are coming for you! How exciting! I wish you nothing but the best! You earned it!

    <3 Steph

  • What an encouraging series of posts. It is so true that “There is no one else in this world like you. You are beautiful, courageous, driven, intelligent and uniquely YOU. ” It also can be fun to celebrate others just to remind them how amazing they are. Each person has a story to tell and something to add to this world they only they can tell. 🙂

  • Erin @ Love Peace Beauty

    Very inspirational post! I needed this – I know fear gets the best of me sometimes. Recently, I struggled with the decision to return to work or be a SAHM – financially tough, and I was fearful of the unknown but once I committed to the decision I was so glad I did. Looking fwd to following your blog!

  • I love Brene Brown’s Ted Talks! We watched them for a class I was taking and they are super thought-provoking.

  • Jen

    Loved this. It was just what I needed. I was laid off a couple of months ago and I was ready to start my own business. I think I let fear and the craziness of life get in the way of me really moving forward with it. Lots of reminders lately to just go with it! I need to check out that Ted Talk soon.

  • I agree 100% Felecia! Thanks for your feedback, and I am glad you enjoyed the series! <3

    -Steph

  • Hi Erin!

    Thanks for your feedback and support. Did you decide to go back to work or stay home? SAHM is a tough tough job without a lot of recognition! I don’t have kids yet but I hope to soon, and I plan to be a SAHM and still teach Pilates and produce this blog. Sending lots of love your way! <3

    -Steph

  • Elizabeth,

    She is an absolute mastermind. Some of her insights are so simple, but things I had never considered before! I am becoming stronger through some lessons I learned from her! Glad you enjoyed her Ted Talks! <3

    -Steph

  • Jen,

    You are so powerful! Lay offs aren’t easy even when you see them coming. They do take a hit to your self esteem to some degree. I am a strong believer that if the universe begins to nudge you in a certain direction, its worth at least exploring! Starting this blog and teaching Pilates are not where I thought I would be 5 years ago, and I have to say that I am happier than I have been in a long time. I think I have finally found my true calling because I took a moment to listen to the signs around me. Good luck to you, I wish you all the best! What kind of business?

    -Steph

  • love this! Thank you for sharing ♥ Looking to take more risks ♥

  • Erin @ Love Peace Beauty

    Thank you! I’m staying home. 🙂 Definitely hard but so worth it. Blogging is my “outlet” and I was a teacher so I plan to do some part-time tutoring/night school teaching.

  • Erin,

    That is perfect! We all need an outlet, kids or no kids. 🙂 I worked as a nanny for several years and even that was tough so I can imagine making time for yourself as a SAHM is so so important! So glad you have an outlet! <3

    -Steph

  • Tianna,

    You’re absolutely welcome! <3

    -Steph

  • blissfulgal

    I agree completely! It may seem scary at first, but taking risks can be so beneficial! (: Great post!

  • Thank you my dear! <3

  • Jessica Humrich

    Loved this! Blogging has been my biggest change. Not only letting people in but letting 1,000s of people in.

  • I enjoyed this series. Risk and change really scare me though I’ve been learning to slowly accept them and take the chance. This was really inspirational. Thank you for sharing. 🙂

  • Jessica,

    I know exactly what you mean! It’s tough to put yourself out there and requires great courage! <3

    -Steph

  • Jazmine,

    Thanks for your comment. I am glad you’re working on becoming more balanced and taking more risks and am so honored that you found this series to be useful to you! <3

    -Steph

  • Longest time to respond ever, but thank you so much! <3!