Achieving Balance: The Epic Guide

Back in July, I shared about a day in my life as a Pilates instructor and blogger. Today, now that I am deeper into my life away from the structure of a corporate career, I am sharing how to achieve balance in your life. I have been struggling to balance looking for freelance work {social media management}, teaching, finding new clients and blogging along with making time for my friends and loved ones. I am so much happier now, but so much busier! It’s amazing how busy you can become and also how much you can procrastinate when you work for yourself.

Whether you’re a freelancer, fitness instructor, stay at home mom or anything really, I hope that these tips will help you to create a little more balance in your own life.

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//Carve out “me” time

Make sure you are making time for yourself no matter what. For me, this looks different everyday. When I have more time, I enjoy reading other blogs, watching mindless television and even playing candy crush! I also LOVE taking Pilates classes from other instructors because I get so much out of it. I can learn some new exercises, get a good workout and network. Win win win!

Spend at least 30 minutes a day doing something that you absolutely love and schedule it into your daily routine! Take a bubble bath, do some online shopping or cook a nice meal. Whatever it takes for you to unwind. I also like to take an evening shower because it signifies to me the end of the “work day” and the beginning of my relaxation time!

//Make a daily list

Seriously, I live and die by my to-do list. My husband gave me a great tip to write down only two to three MUST complete activities per day. I keep running to-do lists for my personal life, blog and freelance projects, but it is comforting to look at a smaller list of things that need to get done that day.

When you declutter your schedule a little, and get the to-do’s out of your head and onto paper, it will really help your mind to find some peace. I find myself so much more productive when I have fewer things to focus on rather than a huge daunting list. I recommend writing this list the night before so you can go to sleep with a clear mind.

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Hanging with my bestie poolside in Vegas. One of my much needed vacations! 

//Create a routine

When I left the structure of corporate, I was so excited to NOT have a routine. What I have learned about myself is that I am really good at sleeping in until the last minute, and spending a good chunk of time aimlessly being distracted. Having a routine (even if it varies a bit each day) creates structure and a sense of calm to my days.

You can start as simple as just a morning routine such as waking up at a specific time, spending an hour drinking coffee, eating breakfast and reading, taking a shower and then getting to work. Having a little bit of structure allows you to know what to expect the next day, and clear your mind the night before.

//Use a productivity timer

When you’re in work mode, use a timer. I like Pomodoro. It gives you a 25 minute work period followed by 5 minutes of rest. After each 30 minute cycle, you get a long break (mine is set to 15 minutes). You can use this timer for anything. Need to get a ton of cleaning done? Focus on 25 minute segments so you don’t feel too overwhelmed. Make sure you use your 5 minute breaks to really “check out”. Read. Write. Close your eyes for a few moments. Just disconnect from the work you’re doing so you feel reenergized when you get back into it.


Prioritize what is most important to you. Make sure that the time you spend with your loved ones is non-negotiable. I am guilty of procrastinating work until late at night when I should be spending the time with my handsome husband. It happens. I have just started implementing all of these tips and so far they are working well for me. Prioritize and make sure you put yourself and loved ones first, and really have laser focus when it comes to work projects so you don’t spend too much time procrastinating.

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About Stephanie

Stephanie Benton is a STOTT PILATES Certified instructor and recently became a mom! She holds a BA in Dance from California State University Long Beach, and has a passion for helping new moms reconnect with their physical and emotional selves after starting a family. Cohesive Fitness is a place to learn to simplify your life, health and family priorities.

  • Lisa

    Great tips! This is something I’m really working on.

  • Thanks Lisa! I think we all need a bit more balance in our lives in general! 🙂 Hope these tips help you get a little closer!